do something terrifying

when was the last time you were genuinely terrified? not anxious about an email or stressed about a deadline. actually, physically terrified. if you can't remember, you're playing life too safe.

the case for deliberate terror

fear is a muscle. if you never exercise it, it atrophies — not in the "it goes away" direction, but in the "it controls you completely" direction. an unused fear response becomes hypersensitive. every minor discomfort feels like a threat because your nervous system has no reference point for real fear.

deliberately seeking out terrifying experiences recalibrates your fear response. after you've jumped out of a plane, a difficult conversation at work doesn't register on the same scale anymore.

the spectrum of terror

pick your level:

mild: watch a genuinely scary horror movie alone, in the dark, with headphones. not a comedy-horror. the real thing.

moderate: ride the most extreme roller coaster at the nearest amusement park. the one that makes your palms sweat just looking at it.

intense: go indoor skydiving. try a high ropes course. do a polar bear plunge in freezing water.

maximum: book a tandem skydive. try bungee jumping. sign up for a solo travel trip to somewhere that intimidates you.

what happens to your brain

when you voluntarily face fear and survive (which you will), your brain updates its model. it learns that fear doesn't equal danger. that discomfort doesn't equal death. that you're capable of functioning under extreme stress.

this is the same principle behind exposure therapy, and it's one of the most well-documented approaches in psychology.

the transfer effect

courage built in one domain transfers to others. the person who skydives finds it easier to have hard conversations. the person who watches horror alone becomes more comfortable with uncertainty.

fear is fear. and overcoming it anywhere strengthens your ability to overcome it everywhere.

go do something that scares the hell out of you. this week.

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