write your autobiography

you are a product of things that happened to you before you were old enough to understand them. and most of those things are still running the show, right now, without your awareness or consent.

why autobiography matters

this isn't about writing a memoir for publication. it's about excavating. your childhood experiences, family dynamics, pivotal moments, and emotional wounds didn't just happen and disappear. they formed neural pathways. they created beliefs. they built the invisible operating system that drives your decisions today.

the kid who was criticized constantly might now be a perfectionist who can't finish anything. the teenager who was abandoned might now sabotage relationships before they can be hurt first. these patterns are invisible until you write them down and look at them.

how to do it

start chronologically. childhood first:

what are your earliest memories? not the facts -- the feelings
what was the emotional climate in your home?
what did you learn about love, money, success, and failure from watching your parents?
what moments changed the direction of your life?

then move through adolescence and into adulthood. pay attention to patterns:

what emotions come up repeatedly?
what situations do you keep finding yourself in?
what are you still trying to prove, and to whom?
where do you feel the most resistance or charge?

the uncomfortable truth

writing your autobiography will be uncomfortable. you'll encounter memories you've been avoiding. you'll see connections you didn't want to see. you might cry. you might get angry. good. those emotions have been stored in your body, and writing them out is one of the most effective ways to process and release them.

this isn't therapy, but it's therapeutic. and it gives you something therapy alone doesn't: a written document you can revisit and find new patterns in as you grow.

start today

open a document. write the sentence "i was born..." and don't stop for 30 minutes. don't edit. don't censor. just write. what comes out will surprise you.

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